Home
I’ve learned a lot about home over the last four years. Home is where the heart is. Very true, but when you leave all your family and friends several hours behind, you leave most of your heart there as well. So admittedly, it’s hard to find home spots so far away.
One of my favorite home spots here in NC died last week—a dear woman named Selima Johnson. She was 93. She falls easily under probably everyone who has met her as one of your favorite old ladies. In the last two years, she had lost pretty much all her eyesight, and she had a hard—quite hard—time hearing. Very loudly, I would say, “HI SELIMA. IT’S JESS FROM CHURCH.” “Who?” And I would repeat myself, “JESS SCHOLTEN, ONE OF THE MINISTERS AT FIRST PRESBYTERIAN.” She would kind of nod, and—wondering if she’d heard well enough to realize who I was or if her memory was not as sharp as it had been at my last visit—I’d proceed into the conversation, checking in on how she was doing and the latest great-grandchild news. A few minutes later, without fail, she would say to me, “Is that Jess?” She said it just so every time. I should name a tone here that would help you understand it was sweet and gentle but full of energy and thoughtfulness, but there isn’t a word for the care and welcomingness that she had. Love, I suppose works, but not just that. It was inclusive. It was home.
We get a lot more “Ya’ll aren’t from around here, are ya?”s then we ever get of, “So glad you’re part of us.” But I always felt welcomed home with Selima. She read her Presbygram, listened to the church service on the radio, and paid attention to the church news. She kept up with me more than I could even keep up with her—in a way that reflected love and prayer and care.
So Thursday night, Jesus said, “Is that Selima?” and she was welcomed home. I should say, “Thanks be to God,” for she was ready to go. Except that I’m homesick already, and I will miss those loud conversations and the dawning of love that always came in the question, “Is that Jess?”
But for that light, for that care, and for the love and home she gave to so many… Thanks be to God!
I’ve learned a lot about home over the last four years. Home is where the heart is. Very true, but when you leave all your family and friends several hours behind, you leave most of your heart there as well. So admittedly, it’s hard to find home spots so far away.
One of my favorite home spots here in NC died last week—a dear woman named Selima Johnson. She was 93. She falls easily under probably everyone who has met her as one of your favorite old ladies. In the last two years, she had lost pretty much all her eyesight, and she had a hard—quite hard—time hearing. Very loudly, I would say, “HI SELIMA. IT’S JESS FROM CHURCH.” “Who?” And I would repeat myself, “JESS SCHOLTEN, ONE OF THE MINISTERS AT FIRST PRESBYTERIAN.” She would kind of nod, and—wondering if she’d heard well enough to realize who I was or if her memory was not as sharp as it had been at my last visit—I’d proceed into the conversation, checking in on how she was doing and the latest great-grandchild news. A few minutes later, without fail, she would say to me, “Is that Jess?” She said it just so every time. I should name a tone here that would help you understand it was sweet and gentle but full of energy and thoughtfulness, but there isn’t a word for the care and welcomingness that she had. Love, I suppose works, but not just that. It was inclusive. It was home.
We get a lot more “Ya’ll aren’t from around here, are ya?”s then we ever get of, “So glad you’re part of us.” But I always felt welcomed home with Selima. She read her Presbygram, listened to the church service on the radio, and paid attention to the church news. She kept up with me more than I could even keep up with her—in a way that reflected love and prayer and care.
So Thursday night, Jesus said, “Is that Selima?” and she was welcomed home. I should say, “Thanks be to God,” for she was ready to go. Except that I’m homesick already, and I will miss those loud conversations and the dawning of love that always came in the question, “Is that Jess?”
But for that light, for that care, and for the love and home she gave to so many… Thanks be to God!
